Spencer w kimball quotes on dating
And the statement is not clear or unambiguous about turning the preservation of “virtue” from the woman’s responsibility to the man’s responsibility.As a result, a rape victim understandably hears that she (or he) would be better off dead than having lost her “virtue.” That is an intolerable, insensitive, wrong-minded, dangerous thought and statement. 196, in his own voice, Elder Kimball says this: “Also far-reaching is the effect of the loss of chastity.Once given or taken or stolen it can never be regained.Even in a forced contact such as rape or incest, the injured one is greatly outraged.
They are just ‘that way' and can only yield to those desires. While it is a convincing idea to some, it is of the devil. From our premoral life we were directed into a physical body. Boys are to become men --masculine, manly men --ultimately to become husbands and fathers.
(For example, I think the “better to die” phrase is really saying that rape is akin to murder.) The next paragraph states, “while one may recover in large measure from sexual sins they are nevertheless heinous.” However, the problem with this quote is that in expounding on how great the damage is, the words lapse into victim-blaming.
Perhaps it was common language or phrasing at the time (however wrong that might be even then), but in modern terms this language is unavoidably damaging to victims.
If you are ever approached to participate in anything like that, it is time to vigorously resist.
“While I was in a mission on one occasion, a missionary said he had something to confess.