Dating and marriage customs in nigeria
Though with a rich tradition, their simple ways of life often go a long way in making the otherwise expensive requirements look so simple and easy to fulfill. Not to be overlook also, is the flexibility of marrying a Tiv woman. When this is done and the bride price paid, the woman is then asked to come and show her fathers (all the elderly men in her family) the man she wishes to marry by giving him a drink just like it’s practiced in Igboland.6. After this is done and while the female members of the bride’s family are still in the room, the girl then takes her man to them there where she is given some advice by her mothers in the room.7. Back then a girl who is coming back from the village stream or from fetching fire wood is usually surrounded, ambushed and taken away by the suitor as if she was accidentally kidnapped.
As if keeping the best for the last, guess how much an average Tiv bride price is? Local gin and some cash which is usually meant for the replacement of the drinks in case it finishes soon.
Though not mandatory, the youths of the bride’s family usually demand some money from the groom which he may find one way or the other to dodge or give them whatever he feels like; mere protocols at times! When the traditional rites are done with and fully observed, the groom’s family are then treated to their traditional musics/dance and this process is called “kwase kuhwam” this is mostly common if they are both Tiv people.
These are just few basic requirements for marrying a Tiv lady.
While coming at this time along with his people, he is required to bring a bottle of wine and hot drinks, with bag of salt and bush meat if the bride’s family request for that.3.
At the introduction, both families chooses a date for the traditional wedding and then the groom’s family is provided with the full list of things to be provided for the wedding day. Then for the bride price, you are expected to part with a large sum of N2.00 or less!