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The masterminds of our youth camps often recognized this problem—that is, the problem that such a fragile definition of “purity” will leave young men and women who have had sex in despair—so they came up with one of the most bizarre solutions imaginable: “second virginity.” Rather than changing the definition of “pure” to reflect biblical teachings of sin, atonement, and imputed righteousness, these geniuses changed the definition of “virgin” so they could hold on to their terrible axiom! Except, it isn’t, because as long as you define “purity” as “virginity,” stretch marks and a baby will always brandish many young women as second-tier Christians who are at the very least less pure, no matter how many pamphlets you produce that smack of “second virginity.” Many of us who were the pimply 17 year-olds at youth camp have grown out of this kind of silliness in recent years.We can laugh about the absurd analogies we were saturated in and the antics that pervaded the whole movement—we all remember our unvarnished pennies, rubber bands, nails, buttons, true love waits rings, and of course, the rose, right?
Perhaps the problem is that their “market” is too narrowly defined.
To a pimply 17 year-old young man with an imagination, this is compelling enough to “surrender your life to Jesus.” Even worse than the expectations branded on young men is the impression left on young men and women who have sinned sexually.
The “stay pure till marriage” rhetoric offers this problematic axiom: purity = being a virgin; therefore, losing one’s virginity = impurity.
In an instant, this mother became a wife, and this husband became a father.
Every wedding marks the beginning of a family, but these kinds do so in a uniquely palpable sense.