Advice for dating men
Communication is key, Sherman says, and voicing feelings of jealousy and insecurity as they present themselves can go a long way.
"It’s helpful for this type of couple to recognize that they don't have to share the same level of career success." "Age can be a status that creates differences in terms of power," Carbino points out.
When interviewing couples for her book "Oftentimes, the men themselves were happy in these roles, and the couple felt happy too.
But peers and outsiders put undue pressure on them to change things, and this added a level of stress to their relationship."Carbino agrees that couples will need to develop "resiliency," and a strategy regarding how to deal with criticism from friends, family, and strangers who don't understand the attraction.
"They find the aging process for men to be more accelerated than among women, in terms of their desires for exploration, and are interested in younger men who may be less set in their ways," she says.Sherman agrees that a woman who's, say, divorced with older kids may have so many obligations to juggle that someone who's accrued less "baggage" is often appealing."They can just appreciate one another, and the moments they share." The theory that men's sexual peak hits decades earlier than a woman's, making an 18 year-old man and a 35-year-old woman unlikely-yet-perfect bedfellows, comes from a study conducted way back in 1953 (and the existence of a "sexual peak" is highly debatable).If things have progressed past fling status, Carbino says to tackle this conversation as soon as possible."Those who are becoming serious should have discussions regarding their desires around family generally," she reminds us.